Many clients are calling, emailing and coming by to ask for hints and tips for surviving this holiday season. Frazzled, jangled, at loose ends and ready to throw in the towel, they are trying to balance the perfect meal with the perfect house with the perfect baby with the perfect husband.
Some have physically recoiled when I simply, cheerfully, say to them: "Sit down, have a hot cuppa, and by the way, not happening, lovey. "
One client burst into tears, convinced that she was a wretched failure.
This set me to write upon this subject. The time has come, as my grandmother says, for some good, solid facts and hard home truths.
First, let us be frank. If you are not an octopus, you will not wake up and just magically have a sitcom-worthy house with all of the Norman Rockwell trimmings.
Second, no one does it by themselves, with no help, with no planning and with a squalling newborn.
Third, if help is offered, DO take it, with as many thanks as possible.
Fourth, a small, well-cooked dinner is better than a disasterous six-course meal.
Fifth, if you have never prepared Thanksgiving before, for heaven's sakes, get help.
Sixth, restaurants are accepting your reservations for Thanksgiving dinner.
Seventh...calm yourself, dry your eyes, and be thankful for what you do have.
Eighth...have a wonderful, calm, peaceful, safe Thanksgiving!